In Lieu of Flowers

"In lieu of flowers" is a phrase used by bereaved families to indicate that they would prefer mourners to make a charitable donation rather than send funeral flowers. This request has become increasingly common in Cheltenham and across the UK, and it is important to understand the etiquette surrounding it.

When a family requests donations in lieu of flowers, this wish should always be respected. The family may specify a particular charity — often one related to the cause of death, a charity the deceased supported, or an organisation close to their heart. Details are usually included in the funeral notice or order of service, along with information on how to make a donation.

However, even when "in lieu of flowers" is requested, immediate family members typically still provide the principal floral tributes for the service — the casket spray and perhaps one or two family pieces. The request is generally directed at friends, colleagues, and extended family who might otherwise send individual tributes.

If you are unsure whether to send flowers when this request has been made, you might consider a compromise: making a donation to the specified charity and sending a small, discreet arrangement or potted plant to the family's home as a personal gesture. At Nat's Funeral Flowers in Cheltenham, we can advise on appropriate options when navigating this sensitive area of funeral etiquette.